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Independence Parenting Self-development

This old dog is learning

I help take care of a beautiful dog named Raleigh. He is the cutest thing, and I love him to bits! He’s a little quirky, but aren’t we all?

The other day I let Raleigh out to do his thing. We went through the sliding glass doors out onto the deck leading to the back yard. As usual, I have to practically chase him off the deck to go do his business. He goes trotting off into the yard, then stops about 10 feet from me and turns around to see if I’m still standing there (he hates being left alone anywhere). For a split second, I want to run out there and go with him. But I stop myself. “You have to let go, Eva,” I tell myself. “He won’t learn to be independent if you keep coddling him.”

Instead, I tell him, “Go on, Raleigh. I’ll be right here waiting for you.”

A dog is teaching me how to parent. Sigh.

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Medications Prescription Medications Self-development Therapy

A whole new life

Today will mark the beginning of a new chapter in the life of Psych Patient, MD.

I withdrew from therapy, and I am going to wean myself off of all of my medications.

I have also undergone a few of the most stressful life changes a person can endure.

This ought to be a roller coaster of a ride.

Please don’t try this at home.

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Communication Family Relationships Forgiveness Self-development

Forgiveness

During one of my rare father-daughter moments with my dad, he asked me why my sisters and I were upset about him adopting an adult son in China. I told him that all us girls thought that he had gotten over not having a biological son, so when he told us about the adoption, we were hurt that we were not enough for him. He looked quite puzzled. Then he explained how he needed a “son” in China to take of family that was left there. It had nothing to do with us girls. He didn’t mean to hurt our feelings. But there was no apology for hurting our feelings. Basically, he didn’t mean it that way, so we shouldn’t take it that way.

Over the years, I’ve come to decide that it was his way of asking for forgiveness. I mean, he isn’t about to apologize, so I better stop expecting it to happen. It has taken me a long time to understand forgiveness as something I do for myself. When I forgive someone, I am no longer going to expect anything to make up for whatever hurt I experienced. I don’t feel like anything is owed to me anymore. What’s done is done, now it is over, we can move forward from this point on. That does NOT mean, however, that I forget what happened. Forgive and forget? That is for doormats. Forgiving releases me from heartache. Forgetting just gives license to others to abuse me repeatedly.

So I forgive my father when he hurts my feelings. That’s how we continue to get along. But I never forget, because how else am I going to learn how I want to be treated by a man?

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Personality Traits Self-development

You really like me!

People Definitely Like You

You are very well liked, and many people admire you.
You are friendly, well mannered, and fun to be around.
Of course, you’re not perfect … but that’s okay.
Your friends are usually willing to accept you for who you are!

What People Don’t Like About You:

People don’t like that you can’t defend your values and beliefs. You seem unreasonably stubborn.

People don’t like that you seem unnatural and stiff at times. You sometimes give off an impression of being standoffish or fake.

People don’t like that you’re not very interesting or engaging. You often bore them… and yourself.

What People Like About You:

People like that you truly take and interest in them. Everyone likes to be liked!

People like that you give them complements. You make people feel good about themselves!

People like that you give them support and strength. Friends know that they can count on you to be there for them.

Do People Like You?
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Inspiration Self-development Therapy

What Are Goals and Goal Setting?

Interesting questions from Visualized.Feel.Abundance.

What is your definition of a goal, and what does goal setting mean to you?

I believe people think of me as a goal-oriented person, but I’m not so sure of that. I have achieved much in my life, but were any of my achievements actual goals of mine? I never thought about it much. It feels like I just “went with the flow.” I don’t think that I do so good at making plans. I’m just hard-headed and determined to get things done.

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