Family Relationships


Anniversaries mark momentous events. They are supposed to be happy occasions. Some I would just rather forget.

My mother died four years ago this week. I can never seem to remember the exact date. It was the weekend after Presidents’ Day. I remember that because I flew to California that holiday weekend to see my mother for the last time.

She acted like it was the most natural thing to be staying in a hospital doped up on morphine. She looked so small in the hospital bed. Cancer had eaten away at the robust woman of my childhood memories. She seemed content, though. So I try to remember that.

She made only one request of me: help my father whenever he needed it.

I could stay for only a day. I was a psychiatry resident at the time and I needed to get back to the clinic and get things in order so I could take time off for the funeral. My father did not want my mother told that I was leaving. He didn’t want her to know. He knew she would be dead by the time I got back. I just kissed her cheek before I left. I never got to say goodbye.


Just for fun

Your Blog Should Be Purple

You’re an expressive, offbeat blogger who tends to write about anything and everything.

You tend to set blogging trends, and you’re the most likely to write your own meme or survey.

You are a bit distant though. Your blog is all about you – not what anyone else has to say.

What Color Should Your Blog or Journal Be?