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ADHD Mental Health Resources

Piles

I’m finally getting through Michele Novotni‘s book What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don’t?: Social Skills Help for Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. In her chapter on disorganization, she relates a story about a woman who was getting a divorce. Now, this woman knew that the marriage was over, but she was hesitant about the divorce. She knew that part of the process would be to sell their home and divide the proceeds of the sale. She described her home as having piles of stuff “thigh high” with narrow pathways between for walking through. Walls were lined with stacks of boxes. She knew that in order to sell the house, she would have to clear out all of her piles of stuff first. THAT was going to be the hard part of the divorce!

Much as it pains me to admit it, that description fits my apartment to a T. The mere thought of moving can send me into a panic.

One more anecdote from the book that hit me hard:

An employee who thinks that he might have ADHD goes to see his company’s psychologist. The psychologist has a simple three-question test to make the diagnosis.

Look at your desk and ask yourself:

  • How many piles of stuff do you have there?
  • How big are the piles?
  • How old is the stuff at the bottom?

I have unopened mail that is at least two years old. I just recently threw away print-outs of email messages from 2003.

And to think that I was thisclose to becoming a full-fledged psychiatrist …

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Inspiration Self-development Therapy

What Are Goals and Goal Setting?

Interesting questions from Visualized.Feel.Abundance.

What is your definition of a goal, and what does goal setting mean to you?

I believe people think of me as a goal-oriented person, but I’m not so sure of that. I have achieved much in my life, but were any of my achievements actual goals of mine? I never thought about it much. It feels like I just “went with the flow.” I don’t think that I do so good at making plans. I’m just hard-headed and determined to get things done.

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Inspiration

Wish I had said that

Today’s mighty oak is just yesterday’s nut that held its ground.

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Destiny Inspiration Mental Health Resources

“Your destiny can’t be ruined by the decisions of others.”

I have been known to blast the radio when I am in the driver’s seat of a car. When driving alone, I will belt out Life After Love right along with Cher. But I don’t always listen to music. I often switch to talk radio, just to change things up a bit.

Thursday, September 27, I was making my monthly trek from Massachusetts to New York (to see my shrink, I’ll explain that one in a future entry). After listening to Dr. Phil’s TV show, which for some reason I can pick up on the radio while driving through Rhode Island at 5 pm, I bounced around the radio dial. As I approached the New York state line, I tuned in to a Christian radio station. Now, I am not Christian. I don’t even consider myself religious. But I do like to listen to Bible lessons and sermons on the radio. It always amazes me how often my personal life philosophy lines up with Christian teachings.

I caught Enduring Truth hosted by Pastor Paul Sheppard. The topic was When God Closes A Door. His following words hit me like a ton of bricks:

Your destiny can’t be ruined by the decisions of others.”

I immediately thought of the “closed door” on my career as an academic psychiatrist. I have been spitting nails at that door for five years now, trying to figure out how to get “them” to change their minds and open it back up again. It’s time for me to realize that it just ain’t gonna happen.

I believe that everything in life, good and bad, happens for a reason. I used to think that my “forced” resignation from psychiatry residency was a sign to simply take a break from my hectic life before resuming my career path. Looking back now, I realize that I had been struggling desperately to stay on that path for several years. Dogged determination was what got me as far as I went. Something or Someone was trying to tell me that it wasn’t meant to be. I refused to listen; my entire life had to go to hell in a hand basket before I would even think about considering an alternative pathway.

Search for knowledge and self-discovery are my passions. Using those passions in an academic medical setting isn’t in the cards for me. That doesn’t mean, however, that the 12 years I spent in training will go to waste. I am simply meant to use my training elsewhere in a non-traditional manner. It is up to me alone to find “elsewhere” and fulfill my destiny.

I tagged this post with Mental Health Resources because I know that many people find comfort in their faith. Even though I have no specific religious affiliation, I can find solace in the teachings of various faiths.

Humans are social creatures. We are not built to “go it alone.” Be it your pastor, your therapist, or your best friend, help is available to you in times of need. I say get help wherever you are comfortable.